Honoring others at the end of life

If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, you’ll have read a few posts about handling the loss of friends in the Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) community. Some of the posts that come to my mind are: Living with Loss, On Surviving the death of Friends, and To Bear Witness. … Continue reading Honoring others at the end of life


Recently, I was scrolling through Facebook and I came across a post in a closed support group for those us living with Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) that really resonated with me. As I read through the post, I realized that it felt really familiar and by the time I got to the end … Continue reading Attribution

Xeloda and Topical Heparin

In the parlance of cancer treatments, I am currently on my fifth (5th) line, meaning the fifth (5th) set of medications to treat the cancer in my body since 2017. For anyone who is curious, here are the lines of therapy that I've been on thus far: Adriamycin and cytoxin -- June/July of 2017 Ibrance … Continue reading Xeloda and Topical Heparin

Comparative suffering

Recently, during a webinar I was moderating for SurvivingBreastCancer.Org, Jennifer O’Brien said something along the lines of “comparative suffering is a crock of shit.” The webinar was all about the amazing organization Soaring Spirits, which supports people grieving after their person has died and which I encourage all of you to check out and support. … Continue reading Comparative suffering

Facing 2023 without dear friends

I'm pretty sure that if I go back through all of my posts since 2018, there are quite a few about loss, about death. Frankly, I don't have the energy to count them all up, but I know the posts are there because I think about and experience loss a great deal. At no other … Continue reading Facing 2023 without dear friends

Breaking into Advocacy

During the recent San Antonio Breast Cancer Symposium (SABCS), a comment was posted on a post that continued a picture of a few of us hamming it up for the camera with the person commenting lamenting how they weren't part of the "in crowd" in MBC advocacy. The same picture was posted in a few … Continue reading Breaking into Advocacy

Day 4 in San Antonio (a day late)

Can you tell that things get overwhelming at a big scientific conference? My stamina is definitely different these days and I'm glad that things are starting to wind down. I've also learned a little about taking breaks and prioritizing the topics and activities that are the right fit rather than trying to take everything in. … Continue reading Day 4 in San Antonio (a day late)

Day 3 in San Antonio, 2022

After the marathon day yesterday, we got a slower start to the day today. A calm port in the storm of the conference activity is the Patient Advocacy Lounge sponsored by Eli Lilly, which gives those of us who need a break some down time and a place to connect with other patient advocates. Starting … Continue reading Day 3 in San Antonio, 2022

Day 2 in San Antonio 2022 (a day late)

Checked in officially this morning for the conference and was pleasantly surprised that the physical book of information about the conference was included. Yes, I'm sure I'm dating myself and the ap does have a lot of great features, but I really do enjoy having something in my hands to hold and write on. There … Continue reading Day 2 in San Antonio 2022 (a day late)

Off to San Antonio!!

Every December, people from all over the world dedicated to the treatment of those of us with breast cancer gather in San Antonio, TX for the San Antonio Breast Cancer Symposium. I've been attending in person or virtually since 2018 and have learned so much each time I've attended from the actual program, the new … Continue reading Off to San Antonio!!