IV Our Lives

I've written before about the play that Dr. Andrew Silver at Mercer University has written based on interviews of men and women living with Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC). I had the honor of reading Anya Silver's poetry in the first reading of the play back in Washington DC pre-Covid, in October of 2019. … Continue reading IV Our Lives


As many of you know, I'm white and my husband is black. Before I met Elliot, I didn't understand much about the experience of those who are black in our country. Elliot (and his family) have taught me so much about race and the experience of those who are not white in our country. After … Continue reading #PullUpaSeat

“Rage, Rage Against the Dying of the Light”

I love poetry. Poets grant to all of us a rare glimpse into words and word images that provoke an echo or perhaps a shared understanding or maybe an epiphany. To read a poem is to become part of it. To immerse oneself in that poem is to be transformed. To be transformed is to … Continue reading “Rage, Rage Against the Dying of the Light”

Glossary of my Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) Experience

A is for Advocacy, because I don't know any other way to do this living with MBC thing. B is for Baths since soaking in an Epsom salts bath each night has been so helpful! C is for Camaraderie, since MBC is the worst club with the best people. C is also for Cowabunga, which … Continue reading Glossary of my Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) Experience


Definition of betrayal 1: the act of betraying someone or something or the fact of being betrayed : violation of a person's trust or confidence, of a moral standard, etc. the betrayal of a friend, a betrayal of trust, a betrayal of one's principles.2: revelation of something hidden or secret a betrayal of one's true feelingshttps://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/betrayal Betrayal is such a tricky thing. The definition is seemingly straightforward; yet the experience of betrayal … Continue reading Betrayal

Moral Rebels

I wrote a blog post earlier on Different types of Courage and Moral Courage was one of the described types of courage. The definition from the meme I shared in that blogpost is: "doing the right thing, even when it's uncomfortable or unpopular." The author of the article "Why Some People are Willing to Challenge … Continue reading Moral Rebels

Medical Update, third of 2021

You can read the first and second updates if you need to catch up on the dilemmas I faced with regard to treating/killing/freezing/nuking/blasting the pesky met. The cliff's notes version is that there is one metastasis that just won't die and it's located in my right pubic synthesis; the options I was considering were cryoablation … Continue reading Medical Update, third of 2021

Pain, Healing, and Purpose

Pain can take many forms. As a pretty concrete person, when I hear pain, I first think about physical pain. Since I live with chronic pain, I'm well acquainted with this kind of pain. However, I'm also acquainted with psychological and emotional pain, not just as a woman living with terminal cancer, but also as … Continue reading Pain, Healing, and Purpose