Parenting and MBC, Part II, a Guest Post

I asked my dear friend, Amanda Raffenaud, a mom also living with Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer to help me with this series since she has older boys and her experience in parenting while dealing with a serious illness has been different from mine. On December 18, 2018, I was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic … Continue reading Parenting and MBC, Part II, a Guest Post

Parenting and MBC, Part I

When I was initially diagnosed in 2017 with Stage II breast cancer, my boys were one (1) and three (3).  We were tandem nursing and as each of my boys were born, my parenting revolved around my breasts.  Nursing was such a great way to resolve just about anything and I loved watching their bond … Continue reading Parenting and MBC, Part I

On the first day of school, 2022

I wrote a blog post last year about the first day of school in 2021, following a very strange year complicated by COVID and school at home, etc. You can read that here. There are changes this year too, the boys are at a new school in a different county and we are all still … Continue reading On the first day of school, 2022

To my youngest son on the 7th anniversary of your birth

Malcolm-- This year, you turned 7 on the 7th and we have noticed such a difference in you this year. We think back to your rather tumultuous entry into the world and how at every moment since, you have chosen your own path. You throw every bit of your being into whatever it is that … Continue reading To my youngest son on the 7th anniversary of your birth

To my Eldest son on the 9th anniversary of his birth

Liam-- Every year, on the anniversary of your birth, I think about those days leading up to you joining us earthside and how much anticipation there was. Your Dad and I thought we knew some of what might change, but we had no idea how much our lives would be entirely different after you arrived. … Continue reading To my Eldest son on the 9th anniversary of his birth

Acceptable Risk

I've been thinking a lot about acceptable risk in the context of living with Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) while immunocompromised and COVID and all of what we deal with on a daily basis in the world today. I was a little surprised at the variety of definitions out there, but I do like … Continue reading Acceptable Risk

Kids missing out?

I was listening to the radio the other day as I was driving away from dropping off my first grader (he’s 6) and my third grader (he’s 8) and there was a news report about how parents believe kiddos are missing out on some essential experiences at school in light of the pandemic and safety … Continue reading Kids missing out?

On the first day of school, 2021

I remember the very first day of school for each of my sweet boys. They both started in the toddler room at Baldwin Oaks Academy, a wonderful Montessori school in Orlando, at around eighteen (18) months each. That beginning for both of the boys set them up for success when they were little all the … Continue reading On the first day of school, 2021

Little Deaths

Another patient advocate living with Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) wrote a post on Facebook a while back about all the things we lose to MBC. She labeled these things "little deaths" to distinguish these losses from one's eventual death, but also, I believe, to drive home the point that we must grieve the … Continue reading Little Deaths

Mother’s Day, 2021

Growing up, Mother's Day was all about making breakfast for my mom and then doing things like chores or other things she would like us to do for her that day or whatever else dad has cooked up. As I got older and I didn’t live at home any longer, it became more about making … Continue reading Mother’s Day, 2021