To my youngest son on the 7th anniversary of your birth

Malcolm-- This year, you turned 7 on the 7th and we have noticed such a difference in you this year. We think back to your rather tumultuous entry into the world and how at every moment since, you have chosen your own path. You throw every bit of your being into whatever it is that … Continue reading To my youngest son on the 7th anniversary of your birth

To my Eldest son on the 9th anniversary of his birth

Liam-- Every year, on the anniversary of your birth, I think about those days leading up to you joining us earthside and how much anticipation there was. Your Dad and I thought we knew some of what might change, but we had no idea how much our lives would be entirely different after you arrived. … Continue reading To my Eldest son on the 9th anniversary of his birth

Acceptable Risk

I've been thinking a lot about acceptable risk in the context of living with Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) while immunocompromised and COVID and all of what we deal with on a daily basis in the world today. I was a little surprised at the variety of definitions out there, but I do like … Continue reading Acceptable Risk

Kids missing out?

I was listening to the radio the other day as I was driving away from dropping off my first grader (he’s 6) and my third grader (he’s 8) and there was a news report about how parents believe kiddos are missing out on some essential experiences at school in light of the pandemic and safety … Continue reading Kids missing out?

On the first day of school, 2021

I remember the very first day of school for each of my sweet boys. They both started in the toddler room at Baldwin Oaks Academy, a wonderful Montessori school in Orlando, at around eighteen (18) months each. That beginning for both of the boys set them up for success when they were little all the … Continue reading On the first day of school, 2021

Little Deaths

Another patient advocate living with Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) wrote a post on Facebook a while back about all the things we lose to MBC. She labeled these things "little deaths" to distinguish these losses from one's eventual death, but also, I believe, to drive home the point that we must grieve the … Continue reading Little Deaths

Mother’s Day, 2021

Growing up, Mother's Day was all about making breakfast for my mom and then doing things like chores or other things she would like us to do for her that day or whatever else dad has cooked up. As I got older and I didn’t live at home any longer, it became more about making … Continue reading Mother’s Day, 2021

Remembering Family History on my Mom’s Birthday

Today is my Mom's birthday and I cannot articulate how much I appreciate having a relationship with her, not just because of her support of my living with MBC, but also as a friend and as a role model for living as a woman and mom. She looks and presents much much younger than her … Continue reading Remembering Family History on my Mom’s Birthday

Thanksgiving 2020

I just want to say at the outset that I'm well aware of the fact that some of the history and the basis for the holiday involving the Pilgrims and the Native Americans is extremely problematic. For us, in our family, we focus on togetherness and sharing what we are thankful for. This year, I … Continue reading Thanksgiving 2020


The other night, my very precocious 6 year old rolled over and said ... "Mommy, where is Great Grandma?" My grandmother died over the summer in 2018 and we've talked a little about death since then. So, I reminded him that we'd talked about Great Grandma being in heaven. We talked a little about who … Continue reading Soul