Honoring others at the end of life

If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time, you’ll have read a few posts about handling the loss of friends in the Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) community. Some of the posts that come to my mind are: Living with Loss, On Surviving the death of Friends, and To Bear Witness. … Continue reading Honoring others at the end of life

The Stockdale Paradox

Since my diagnosis with Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) in 2017, I’ve struggled with those relentlessly positive people in and around cancer. You know the ones, they are always “up,” always talking about how a cure is right around the corner, always proclaiming how cancer made their lives better, always jumping on the bandwagon … Continue reading The Stockdale Paradox

Books and Censorship

According to family lore, I read my first book around the age of three (3). Spoiler alert, it wasn't really reading, I'd just memorized some of the books that my parents read regularly aloud. Since the books were written in iambic pentameter and had colorful pictures to go along with the text, it was easier … Continue reading Books and Censorship


Recently, I was scrolling through Facebook and I came across a post in a closed support group for those us living with Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) that really resonated with me. As I read through the post, I realized that it felt really familiar and by the time I got to the end … Continue reading Attribution

Xeloda and Topical Heparin

In the parlance of cancer treatments, I am currently on my fifth (5th) line, meaning the fifth (5th) set of medications to treat the cancer in my body since 2017. For anyone who is curious, here are the lines of therapy that I've been on thus far: Adriamycin and cytoxin -- June/July of 2017 Ibrance … Continue reading Xeloda and Topical Heparin

Comparative suffering

Recently, during a webinar I was moderating for SurvivingBreastCancer.Org, Jennifer O’Brien said something along the lines of “comparative suffering is a crock of shit.” The webinar was all about the amazing organization Soaring Spirits, which supports people grieving after their person has died and which I encourage all of you to check out and support. … Continue reading Comparative suffering