Within the support groups that I attend and moderate, we often talk about coping; about living with Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) and how we do that. Sometimes I despair about how verbiage just doesn't match the MBC experience since it cannot fully describe the highs and lows that we all experience at one … Continue reading Coping


At various points in my life, I've benefitted from the involvement of a mentor, someone who is a bit farther along in life and perhaps a specific experience. I still keep in touch with many of the mentors I was serendipitously connected with at various points. Bottom line, my life was enriched in significant ways. … Continue reading Mentors/Mentees

Parenting and MBC, Part II, a Guest Post

I asked my dear friend, Amanda Raffenaud, a mom also living with Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer to help me with this series since she has older boys and her experience in parenting while dealing with a serious illness has been different from mine. On December 18, 2018, I was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic … Continue reading Parenting and MBC, Part II, a Guest Post

Parenting and MBC, Part I

When I was initially diagnosed in 2017 with Stage II breast cancer, my boys were one (1) and three (3).  We were tandem nursing and as each of my boys were born, my parenting revolved around my breasts.  Nursing was such a great way to resolve just about anything and I loved watching their bond … Continue reading Parenting and MBC, Part I


Recently, at the inaugural MBC Legacy Workshop with, as we were discussing our definitions of legacy, one of the participants suggested that we could think of our influence on those around us as "imprinting." I immediately got distracted thinking of geese and ducks, which I know aren't the only animals who are influenced by … Continue reading Imprinting

Living with Loss

As I sat down to write today about what has been weighing heavily on my heart, I went back through previous posts (as I usually do) to see what/if I've written on the topic previously. I suppose I shouldn't be surprised that this is a topic I've written about quite a bit since my diagnosis … Continue reading Living with Loss

When you feel misunderstood …

As I wrote about in the Enneagram post recently, I have often felt misunderstood at various points in my life. It was healing for me to read about how other people who identify with Type 8 on the Enneagram are also often misunderstood, that our intensity and passion are often misidentified as anger, which can … Continue reading When you feel misunderstood …

Book Review: The Choice: Embrace the Possible

When I read one book, the suggestions within my Kindle ap follow that genre. Some time ago, I'd downloaded the book, "The Choice: Embrace the Impossible" by Dr. Edith Egar, a survivor of the Holocaust. To say that I sobbed through much of the book is an understatement. While living with terminal cancer isn't the … Continue reading Book Review: The Choice: Embrace the Possible


I've been thinking a lot about memories from the perspective of how much my kiddos will remember before my diagnosis of Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) in 2017 and afterwards. At the time of my diagnosis, the boys were two (2) and four (4) and I was legitimately concerned that if the average life … Continue reading Memories