Connect IV Legal Services, Inc.

Toxicity is a word that describes many things related to a cancer diagnosis.  There is toxicity from the medication we take; we are concerned about the toxicity of the substances in the world around us, in the food we eat, in the things we put on or in our body; however, in my humble opinion, there isn’t much of a spotlight on the horrendous financial toxicity that accompanies a diagnosis.

Having been a lawyer all of my professional life, I’ve personally worked with and walked through a variety of crises, I was still shocked at the far reaching effects of financial toxicity.  The sheer amount of go-fund-me accounts and wish-lists and just requests for help has been astonishing to me.  I see women going through the worst crisis of their entire lives who have to get up and go to work every single day to keep insurance, to keep a roof over their heads and it’s awful.  The herculean efforts to appear normal and put together when the toxic effects of a cancer diagnosis eats away at anything that is good is not helpful

After noticing how many women are turning to Legal Zoom or online forms or forums or legal advice from non-lawyers, I decided to intervene.  No one who knows me would be surprised how I began commenting on posts or calling and doing my own research to connect women with lawyers able to help.  There is so much that so many don’t know!  I know how blessed I’ve been that I have so many attorney friends–I’ve a pretty extensive database of people I can call on when I meet someone who needs help that I’m expanding all the time.

Connect IV Legal Services was born and officially became a 501(c)(3) on January 1, 2019.  Why?  Because there is such a need and because I want to be able to offer tax deductibility to anyone willing to help.  I’ve not encountered many who weren’t willing to help and there is such a need in the breast cancer community, but especially within the metastatic community.  The fact remains that I, as a lawyer, can often get past the gate keepers and it is also harder to say no to a fellow member of the bar rather than an individual.

If you or someone you know needs legal help, here are some general tips:

  1. Most communities have local Bar Associations.  Usually this is not the state Bar Association, but one in your local community.  Sometimes this local Bar Association is named for your town or maybe your county.  Doing a google search for your community and “Bar Association” usually turns up something.  Once connected to the proper organization, the best thing to ask for is their medically needy group.  It can take some time and effort to get connected to the right place, but most organizations have this group.
  2. If a local Bar Association is not able to help, then looking at the website for the State-wide Bar Association could be helpful.  There are usually lawyer referral services that may have a medically needy component, just not as often as local Bar Associations.
  3. Contacting your nurse navigator or patient advocate or social worker at your cancer center may net some local resources.  We lawyers are often on boards or are connected to local organizations.
  4. Local law schools often offer clinics or have alumni groups of lawyers or law students willing to help for the educational experience or nominal fees.
  5. Referral organizations like Connect IV are often in specific communities.

If all else fails, send me a message.  I’ve been able to steer many fellow metsters in the right direction and I’m always willing to make some calls and ask for help.  I can be pretty tenacious when I need to be. 😉

Inaugural Orlando METSquerade

February 2, 2019.

Last summer, I met Lindsey Scholl at a conference in Tampa and she was the first to tell me that the wildly successful model of holding METSquerades to raise funds for Metavivor that started in Arkansas was coming to Orlando.  I immediately knew that I wanted to be involved.  I live in Miami now, but Orlando was my home for nearly 20 years and for my husband, even longer.

It was a labor of love for us metsters as we worked hard to put together an event that honored the men and women we lost in 2018 as well as those of us still living with Stage IV metastatic breast cancer.  Lindsey and her family did the most work and their efforts were not unnoticed by the crowd of more than 500 who packed the ballroom at the Loews Sapphire Falls Resort at Universal Studios in Orlando, Florida.

Our featured speaker for the evening, Lisa Quinn, talked about how she just started her 8th and final line of treatment.  There are no treatments left for her after this one fails to control her cancer and the only way she will live to be with her two children is for research to find more treatments for her.  She is living her life to the fullest and spending time with her children as much as she can in the middle of IV chemo.  My heart hurts for her and her family and yet she took time from her vacation to come speak before a crowd of strangers and tell her story.

During dinner, there was not a dry eye in the house after watching the Angel video that Jennifer Pace created.  Jen had been released from the hospital Saturday morning and then came Saturday night to the event.  That’s what living with Stage IV metastatic breast cancer looks like sometimes. Others that hoped to join weren’t able to because of illness, but they were with us in spirit.

I took charge of the living obituary project and am so thankful I got to interact with and learn more about the other women who are living with Stage IV metastatic breast cancer and thriving.  Each of them wrote a unique tribute to themselves, focusing on what makes them an individual and what they want to be remembered for.  The audience was reminded that without their generous giving, all of the living women honored would join the angels in the video.  Powerful stuff.

Being surrounded by family and friends at such a poignant event was immensely moving.  Watching the video featuring so many women that I got to know who were murdered by breast cancer in 2018 was both difficult and motivating.  One of the women honored at the event by her family and friends was one of the first women living with Stage IV metastatic breast cancer that I met online in 2017, right after I was diagnosed.  She died in 2018.  How can one not be moved to contribute to the legacy these women left behind?*

We did a great deal to raise funds for metastatic breast cancer research through Metavivor on February 2, 2019, but it was a drop in the bucket compared with the funds needed to fund the life-saving research for those of us living with this terminal disease.  We honored the women who have lost their lives as much as we can; however, the only way to truly honor their lives and deaths is to carry on their work, carry on their torch, carry their lives with us as we continue to put pressure on the powers that be to allocate sufficient funds to be meaningful to us living with this terminal disease.

Check out Metavivor.org and give to the only US organization that gives 100% of the funds they raise to Metastatic breast cancer research.  I’m not aware of any other organization in the US in that category and there are a lot of organizations that ostensibly raise money for research and yet keep most of it.  Putting money where it can be most likely used for the most good is important and could save my life as well as the other amazing women who are living with Stage IV metastatic breast cancer.

We are worth it.

 

* We didn’t have any men living with stage IV metastatic breast cancer with us at the event, but I do want to note that men do get this same diagnosis and also tend to pass away at the 2-3 year mark as well.