During the recent San Antonio Breast Cancer Symposium (SABCS), a comment was posted on a post that continued a picture of a few of us hamming it up for the camera with the person commenting lamenting how they weren’t part of the “in crowd” in MBC advocacy. The same picture was posted in a few places with the various people in the picture referencing how the people in the picture were “my people” or “friends” or something like that. Yes, we’re all living with MBC, yes we’re all advocates and we’ve become friends.
And yet, the display of those friendships was painful to this person because they don’t feel a part of the “in-crowd.”
My first reaction was one of horror because I have been this person at various points in my life, always outside looking in. I don’t know that I’ve ever actually been part of the “in crowd,” so my second reaction was one of disbelief. And, finally, as others commented about how they also have felt a part or not a part of the MBC Advocacy world, I can see clearly that there is a need in our community to have a path, a path towards offering input, towards making advocacy personally satisfying.
I’ll be writing about this more in the future as we develop some curriculum around this topic at Project Life because it’s clearly a point of pain for more than just one person. I envision something more than just a webinar, but a workshop where the attendee is guided towards options that might fit them. I’ve had this discussion with quite a few different people as each one attempted to put together something that looks like a life with MBC. It’s so variable and definitely not one size fits all.
Here’s my initial thoughts (big picture) about breaking into advocacy:
First, know yourself. No one comes to MBC a blank slate, we all have lives and experiences before the diagnosis. Knowing our strengths, what we bring to the table outside of our specific story, that’s key to finding your niche in advocacy. Beginning with the end in mind and setting goals before you start researching or spending time with one organization or another can help keep you focused on what is the most effective use of your valuable time.
Second, find a mentor who is doing the type of advocacy you think you want to do and stalk them. I say that a little tongue in cheek, but I’m not really joking about that. Find the person you want to emulate and watch how they do it. Once you think you have an idea of what they do, ask them to lunch, ask them for coffee, virtually or not, and get to know them. I can’t speak for anyone but myself; at the same time, I would be so very surprised if you don’t get a response and quality time with the advocate you have targeted. And don’t forget to ask your mentor who else you need to know and ask for introductions.
Talking to someone directly about how they got into advocacy is probably one of the best ways to map out a plan for emulating them or creating your own path.
Third, research attending advocacy training programs. While it is not mandatory to attend any advocacy training program (outside of a few select positions), getting connected to different organizations can be really helpful because of the people inside those organizations. The actual training is good, but the relationships are the best thing that I’ve gotten out of the trainings I’ve attended. Yes, I know that the classes are often small and not everyone gets to participate, but exploring one or more programs is a good way to get involved. If you can’t attend for one reason or another, tell them what is creating challenges for you and you never know, they just might find something for you.
Fourth, don’t forget to look locally. Yes, there are the big organizations like Living Beyond Breast Cancer or the National Breast Cancer Coalition, but there are also local non-profits or advocacy programs at local hospitals and in local communities. Not everyone can be on the big stage at the big conferences but we can all do something for someone.
Fifth, be what you wished others would be. My own experiences getting into advocacy weren’t simple or easy. There were many points where I wished things could have gone better or people would behave differently. While clearly we have a long way to go, I’ve tried to take those experiences and do things differently as I’ve moved into doing various pieces of advocacy. The outpouring of people (in the picture or not) who offered to help the people who were struggling “break into the in-crowd” warmed my heart.
Let me just say that I’m not trying to minimize the struggle to find one’s place in advocacy and I want to learn from others as to what barriers are there or what other tips/tricks you’ve found in your search for a niche.
Stay tuned …
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If I edit this a little, could I use it on the Metavivor blog? I get asked this all the time. Or I can wait if your going to expand on the topic?
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Sure, use away! 🙂
How could anyone read this and not know exactly where your HEART and MIND are. In my recent travels, I am reminded how beautiful our America is, but most especially I am reminded of how wonderful our people are!! You are an advocate for The MBC community and THANK GOD for that!! I am a mother of a deceased MBC advocate and so I say, “It Takes a Village”! The sad thing is that the village seems larger and in many ways somewhat forgotten. Those in the picture are those in the picture, but they only represent the whole “VILLAGE” and that village is now not being overlooked or forgotten!! And, remember the village includes Mothers, Fathers, Husbands, Children, Friends and many more! If you have MBC or know someone who does, you are in the picture!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Appreciate your ongoing support! Yes, I really do agree, we are stronger together.
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