GOODBYE 2020, HELLO 2021

I’m not sure there has ever been a year that I’ve been more excited to see over. I suspect that I’m not alone in thinking this; however, I do caution myself that the years changing is just a construct, the issues we face individually and collectively throughout 2020 are still present and will still need to be dealt with. At the same time, beginning a new year, a new start, even a new month, can often represent sufficient hope to be able to change the narrative, change trajectory, change direction.

One way many people celebrate the New Year is to set intentions or resolutions for the year. Pretty sure one of the only entities that benefits from this practice are the gyms who collect lots and lots of memberships in January and then don’t have to provide services since many don’t follow through. I read somewhere a statistic about how few people actually follow through on New Year’s resolutions and it was abysmal.

I’ve never really understood the resolution thing at the first of January. Why then? It just didn’t make a lot of sense to me. What I’ve done for the past few years is to pick a word for the year.

My word for 2018 was JOY and that reminded me to find the joy in the every day moments, to look for joy in the moments that did not seem joyful.  I meditated on that word for 2018 and found that if I truly looked for joy, I found it.  I found joy even during the most difficult days.  I read once that what is inside will spill out, so if you are an angry person, when tested anger will come out; that if you are joyful and hopeful, when you are stressed, that’s what will spill out.  I’m still very angry about MBC and so many of the issues we have all faced this year in the world, but I’m working on filling up on good things so that’s what comes out.

For 2019, my word was EMBRACE.   Those of you who know me and my midwestern bubble, all of the embracing and touching expected down here in Miami is such a stretch for me! I’ve gotten used to it so much that when I’m out of Miami, I lean in for the kiss or hug as a habit now. Made for some awkward exchanges when I was in San Antonio for the San Antonio Breast Cancer Symposium (SABCS) in 2019, especially with some researchers from other countries, but also engendered some laughs. When we travel to Washington DC to advocate for key issues on Capitol Hill, our favorite stop is the Miami Congressperson’s office because they always have Cuban coffee available!

For 2020, my word was SACRED. Boy did I not know what I was getting myself into!! Only a few months into 2020, we learned about COVID-19 and the closures began. March came and we became immersed in virtual learning, which continued far longer than anyone anticipated. I watched as conference after conference I had intended to attend in 2020 was canceled or moved online. Elliot began working from home and initially was literally in the middle of the house and in the middle of the chaos created by two very active little boys. We have spent a LOT of time together as a family. Our living room couches and chairs became a parkour playground for the boys and every Zoom call I took had their heads bouncing the in the background. ZOOM!! I had never really heard of zoom before the pandemic and now it’s hard to remember what life was life before zoom. The summer came and went and school started again, online. When October came and the possibility of the kiddos going back to in person school arose, we decided that would be best for them. It has been wonderful for them to have that element of normalcy again. But the biggest gain I saw in 2020 was how close my boys have gotten and how much sacred family time we’ve had.

For 2021, my word is GRATITUDE. Picking a word of the year is always an adventure. Different words come to me and then I see them everywhere as I begin thinking about choosing one. I firmly believe that God brings to me what I need to be focusing on and He uses whichever word He brings me in ways I don’t anticipate. Whatever it is, I know that it will be an entertaining adventure that will stretch me beyond my wildest dreams!!

So long 2020 and hello 2021!!

49 thoughts on “GOODBYE 2020, HELLO 2021

    1. Your 2021 word brings me to a verse that continually challenges me:
      “Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18
      Praying that you find yourself in the center of God’s will as you focus on GRATITUDE this year.
      I am thankful for you!! 🙏❤️

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      1. Yes! That verse occurred to me as well while I was meditating on my word for 2021. Thank you, my friend, for your continued care and prayers. Much appreciated! Thankful for you. ❤️🥰


  1. I love your choice of words. 🥰 Happy New Year and thank you for following me. ‘Gratitude’ such an important behaviour to practice✨🤗

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  2. Last year for me, I chose two—courage and honesty. I’m not sure I mastered either, and I have thought about recycling them into 2021. But I’m really loving JOY at the moment. I think I’ll taking some time to decide. Thanks for inspiring, Abigail.

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  3. Awesome blog, Abigail! 2020 has been a rough year and I think everyone, including I, was glad to see it go. As for New Year’s resolutions, I’m in the majority in that I suck at keeping them. LOL But now that the new year is here (at last!) I’m thankful, like you are, for the many opportunities that are to come! Wishing you and your family a happy and prosperous 2021!

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  4. I’m not a fan of typical resolutions either, especially the way they make us feel that there’s something wrong with us that needs fixing but then we have to berate ourselves when we ‘fail’. I’ve read those statistics too about how few follow through with unrealistic NY resolutions, it’s very low.

    I love your word for this year. I think there’s much we can hold on to, cherish and be grateful for. Let’s hope 2021 is eventually Covid-free! HAPPY NEW YEAR, Abigail! 🎉

    Caz xx

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  5. Happy New Year to you and yours! Hoping this year is filled with reasons to find gratitude.

    I used to set intentions in three columns, personal, family, work. I’d pin it up and check them off as I went. Always made me happy to see it checked off by the end of the year. But these weren’t resolutions, they were goals. I miss the level of functionality and still have my list from 2014 (year I got sick) pinned up 😁

    Wishing you a peaceful year filled with moments to cherish 🌸

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    1. I do love to check off lists and maybe it’s time to set some new goals … like, sleep 8 hours every night, or connect with different people, or get dressed every day, or make the bed. I don’t know, just brainstorming; at the same time, the point is that you can still set goals, there are just different ways or areas to do so within. Just a thought! Love and gentle hugs to you

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