I was in Girl Scouts once upon a time. It feels like eons ago at times and yet so much of that experience (maybe a year or so) has actually stuck with me over the years. Maybe it was because we not only had a troop but I went to a camp in the mountains.
One of the songs we had started with the words in the title above. The full lyrics are below.
Make new friends,
But keep the old.
One is silver,
And the other, gold.
A circle’s round
It has no end
That’s how long
I’m gonna be your friend.
A fire burns bright,https://www.songsforteaching.com/folk/makenewfriends.php
It warms the heart.
We’ve been friends,
From the very start.
You help me,
And I’ll help you
We will see it through.
The sky is blue
The Earth is green
I can help
To keep it clean.
Across the land
Across the sea
We will always be.
This idea that both old and new friends are key and significant was present in my mind this past weekend when I spent some time with some old friends. We aren’t old (although we played a game that made us feel a bit old) and yet we’ve been through a heck of a lot together.
Starting our own firms
Moving out of state
Looking back, we’ve been through a lot of firsts and changes and lasts. We were drawn together for a variety of reasons and there was a larger group once. Now, it’s the 4 of us.
We’d previously commissioned this amazing art from a picture from the very first Orlando Metsquerade back pre-COVID.
What does it mean to be a forever friend?
I think there are a lot of intangibles that make a lifelong or forever friendship last and commitment is certainly part of it. Commitment to ensuring that the relationship grows, that there are touch points and that each person in the relationship still grow and learn and seek out ways to grow and learn.
One of my dear friends and I collaborated to design this tattoo, which we had inked this past weekend.
The verse that makes up the stem, Proverbs 17:17 says: “A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.”
What does it mean to be “born for adversity?” The first thing that always comes to mind in this scenario is the kiddo who is conceived in order to provide parts/organs for a sibling who is ill. Most commentators that I’ve read interpret this verse to mean that true friends, friends who become family, are those who don’t jump ship when hard things come.
I’m not sure there are many things more difficult or changing than an MBC diagnosis.
These ladies have stuck by me. We have stuck by each other through a whole heck of a lot.
And I am forever grateful.