Growing up, Mother’s Day was all about making breakfast for my mom and then doing things like chores or other things she would like us to do for her that day or whatever else dad has cooked up. As I got older and I didn’t live at home any longer, it became more about making things and sending both presents and flowers to my mom. When I got married, Mother’s Day was a balancing act between what I habitually did for my mom and keeping things “equal” between my mom and mother-in-law, who once told my husband that she was pretty happy about how the gift giving had improved since I came into the picture. Once fertility was a struggle, Mother’s Day became an unnecessary reminder that I wasn’t able to get pregnant and then, when I had kids, Mother’s Day changed again to be a celebration of that oh-so-important status.
Outside of my first Mother’s Day in 2013, my favorite Mother’s Day was in 2015 when we brought our second son home from the hospital. Mother’s Day is now always within a day or two from his birthday in May and we are reminded of that happy day. I will also never forget the looks on my Dad and brother’s faces when I tandem breastfed my boys for the first time when I got home from the hospital that day — a highlight of the transition from a family of three to a family of four, but something that freaked them both out just a little.
When MBC became part of my life in 2017, Mother’s Day morphed once again. My kiddos are young, so they don’t do much in the way of celebrating without some prodding and interceding by adults, but the emotions are heartfelt. I’ve also gotten more thoughtful about my husband gifting me things that I won’t have sufficient time to enjoy or wear with the truncated life expectancy, so for the last few years, my husband’s gifts to me have been professional photo shoots. Taking pictures that will outlive me and to remind my boys that I was and am a part of their lives is just more significant now.
For 2021, we included my mom and returned to the photographer who has been taking our Christmas pictures for the last several years. Definitely a good idea!!
Rosa with Perfect Love Photography gifted us the first set of Christmas pictures when we moved from Orlando to Miami and has been our go to for Christmas pictures ever since. When she included Mother’s Day minis as part of her repertoire again this year, I knew it was the right choice. Over the last year or so, my elder son has become a little less comfortable with a natural smile during these photo shoots — he’s so inside his head that he doesn’t relax the way his younger brother does, we think.
As so many of us moms, I find myself behind the lens much more often than in front of it. It IS important to ask those around us to take the pictures with us in it, even if we aren’t feeling so attractive that day or haven’t “done” our makeup. Our kiddos don’t care about those things, they care about us being there.
As it is often said, children spell love T-I-M-E.
A belated Happy Mother’s Day to all of you who celebrate. Children are truly a gift from God to be cherished, protected, and given the wings to soar. That is my fondest wish for these boys, that they will soar into the world to be exactly as God intended.