I was born in 1978 and I’ve often seen it said that I belong in some sort of sandwich generation where I’m not really a part of any of the recognized generations since I was exposed to technology as a kid but it wasn’t really ubiquitous until I reached adulthood. For reference, I had a rudimentary laptop in college although I still did a lot of computer work in a computer lab and I didn’t get a cell phone until I was in law school and it was super simple and also huge!
Now, I’m online a great deal and I have accounts on a lot of different social media platforms. Sometimes, especially during this pandemic, I think I interact with people more on social media than in real life at times.
I find myself to be a bit of a luddite at times.
Recently, I posted on Twitter some questions about the difference between commenting and retweeting with a comment and received a FLOOD of great information about what is expected and what is deemed impolite. **Mind Blown!** I’d inadvertently been less than polite multiple times, I’m sure, and now I’ve tried to adjust my instinctive behaviors.
But one thing that I can’t get my mind around is this tagging thing.
I’m pretty active on social media, specifically in the MBC Community, and I’ve been tagged in various posts. Usually it’s because a friend and I are doing something together or they want me to see something or it’s a celebration of something I’ve been involved with.
And then there are those organizations who tag me in a post where I have no idea the connection or why I would be tagged in a post. Each time, I’ve sent messages to ask why I’ve been tagged. Each time, I’ve gotten responses along the lines of “Oh, I’ll remove you,” or “Oh, it was an intern,” or “Do you not want to be tagged?”
But I’d like to know WHY!!
I think it comes down to accessing my network especially since the posts usually have something to do with Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) since those who have MBC are a huge part of the people I’m connected with. Or I suppose the organization might want to call my attention to the item or event or topic they are promoting.
But really, why?!
I do have a serious need to know why I’m tagged in something, especially when the organization is not one that I support and isn’t one that is supportive of this of us with MBC. There are those organizations that cater to the early stage of breast cancer havers and just aren’t supportive of those of us with MBC or advanced breast cancer. Tagging me in a post is not just tone deaf, it’s offensive. When this occurs, I usually comment on the post saying so, but the organization can simply delete the comment and they usually do. On Facebook, I have the ability to remove a tag when I’ve been tagged in a post. That ability doesn’t seem available on Instagram or Twitter, as far as I can tell.
But what are the protocols? When is it ok to tag someone in a post? Help me, readers!!