What does it mean to leave a legacy? How does this change with a diagnosis of Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC)?
I’ve been pondering these questions for most of the last three (3) years I’ve been living with Stage IV MBC and I don’t know that I have THE answers; at the same time, I have a few more answers than I did when I was diagnosed. My go-to is writing since that’s a comfort level of mine and it helps me process my feelings now, but I know that to leave a full and robust legacy for my young children, that my voice, my face, who I am is more than just what I write down.
A few years ago, I completed a legacy video through Thru My Eyes, a non-profit physically located in NY. It was a good experience overall, with a mental health professional asking questions and the flexibility of doing the video remotely. The video I have is something that my husband can share with my children after I’m gone. The video is me answering a variety of questions about who I am, what I’ve done with my life, and my family history/legacy.
Now that I’m further into my experience with cancer, I’ve been looking for some other things to do, not just for me, but also to capture the lives of those in the MBC community who have left us too soon. Grief has been such a huge part of the MBC experience for me and I know that grief can be difficult in so many ways for so many, especially since those of us in MBC community are often cut off from the familiar grief rituals, resulting in disenfranchised grief.
So, to address this need, I have partnered with a dear friend of my family, Rob Lamp, to bring the possibility of creating legacy videos at a reduced cost to the Stage IV MBC community. I’ve included the information below–Rob used some of the video and my pictures to demonstrate a portion of what he can do and his YouTube channel has a lot of options to view. Check it out!
If these prices still seem daunting, please feel free to get in touch with me to discuss fundraising options. Everyone has a story to tell and documenting that story is more important than ever when there is a serious illness or we are cut off from those we love. This project may take some time and it could be difficult at times when you are thinking about someone viewing a video after you are gone. I get it, I really do. I’m here to answer questions or anyone can feel free to contact Rob directly. He’s dealt with two different cancer diagnoses in his life and he gets it.