It hasn’t happened to me personally yet, however, I’ve observed several people I know being accused of being negative as they shared their actual, real life experiences with Stage IV metastatic breast cancer. I’ve read their accounts carefully and realized that I’ve said the same or similar things in this blog and on other social media platforms. I’ve talked about the life altering and crushing depression and anxiety and how everything is different. Yet, no one has commented that I’m negative.
Let me be clear, I don’t think cancer is a gift, I don’t consider my life to be better, and I don’t think cancer made me a better person. I know the constant, debilitating pain that I experience, the lovely side effects from all the medication and the mental and emotional toll a terminal illness takes. I live with all of this.
So why am I not attacked on social media for being negative?
I’m certainly not asking to be attacked, I just want to express solidarity with my metsters. Cancer is an awful disease that I wouldn’t wish on an enemy and it’s truly not possible to be positive and “up” all the time. Anyone feeling that pressure is one too many.
It’s entirely ok to express your truth, what you are feeling.